Being ill can change your perspective on a lot of things: Diet, your friends, schooling, and dating. God decided I needed to meet someone on October 3, 2017. I haven’t found a way to figure out how to date while chronically ill. It was always a struggle to navigate what to tell someone you first meet that this is a part of you. I take my health very seriously, and it’s hard when others may not understand. When do you explain you live with this condition that will never go away? Remission is possible, but can be hard to attain.
Being able to manage my illness in a relationship has it’s rough times, but they are worth it with the right person. I have grown in the span of a year to understand that not everyone is meant to support you. You need time alone to grow in your own stillness. God allowed me to meet someone so incredible and understanding of what I am going through. In the year, we’ve exchanged Christmas gifts, went on road trips, played a lot of Pokémon, had surgeries, gone to countless doctor appointments, taken a lot of naps, and moved in together. Learning to live with someone you love when you both have health issues can be challenging on some days when the dishes need to be done or the laundry needs to be folded, but it’s so worth it; finding someone who understands you and loves you is something I hope everyone can experience. Knowing this man for a year has been a whirlwind of love and laughs. I can’t wait for more.
If you are chronically ill (or not), don’t give up on finding someone to spend your time with. God’s timing is always perfect and just when you least expect it. God has entrusted me to love another person and I am so grateful to have met him, and know him. God is faithful and provides us with who we need. He understands our wants and desires in our hearts so fiercely and completely. If you struggle with singleness, turn to God. He is always here.